Accept the utter futility of trying to get everything done before you rest, or play, or loaf, or create something for the sake of it. And just give yourself a designated day to start doing it anyway.
Love the idea of no to-do list saturdays, particularly the detail that you *can* clean and such if the energy strikes. I do find I can risk falling into a “force myself to rest” posture to counteract all my go-getter training, and sometimes can miss bursts of energy and creativity. I’m just so clumsy at listening and and trusting my energy
Love your writing and these newsletters Rosie. I needed to read about the not-to-do-list Sundays – absolutely agree the list is so much more overwhelming and never-ending being a mum!
"it’s also possible to defiantly put your foot down and begin enjoying things in spite of the inevitable chaos and disappointment the surrounds you" - thank you Rosie for this beautifully written reminder of how joy can coexist with everything else! 💜💜💜
Most of all, I like the writing. Secondly, I see if the topic has interest or even relevance. This topic says to me, Staying present is what matters, most. Not thinking about the past or the future, but right now. Like a walk in the woods and anything else that makes me sensitive to what only what is right now. Sounds like it would be easy to do, but no. What matters is your writing to tell the story of what you learned about being present and with one thought, If I just.
I loved this edition so much, feels like the perfect tone and sentiment for this season (and for the essay I’m so grateful you linked to!). Always good to read you!
Whilst recognising that a lot of religious bullshit got attached the idea, the ancient practice of sabbath, as originally intended, still feels like something relevant. Your no do-do list Sunday’s was a good nudge in that direction. Again. Thanks 😊
A hearty here here to this: "One thing that my inauspicious start to motherhood has helped me accept is the fact that I am behind on everything...I will never have enough time to do all the things I want to do, see the people I want to see, start the projects I’d like to start — maybe ever again?" SO true! Motherhood has taught me, from all of its busy-ness, counterintuitively, to let go of feeling like I CAN do everything, like clean the kitchen, write my novel, call my mother, get the groceries, and have time for myself. Funny how it took becoming so busy to learn to let go.
Rosie, I loved this. I also love that pic of your cat. I rarely give myself no to do list days and sometimes turn things that are supposed to be fun into pressure. I wrote about this in my Sunday post if you want to check it out. https://pocketfulofprose.substack.com/p/the-endless-possibilities-of-summer?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=reader2
I love this so much! The story yes but also the way you have written it. As a mother of two myself (3 and 9 months) I understand exactly how overwhelming life can feel when you know you are “always behind”. Finding grace with ourselves as mothers, partners, and just a person in general is so important. ❤️
Thanks you for featuring me, Rosie!